How to flirt during a study date when he doesn’t know that I’m interested?
From Ominous Olivia
Dear Ominous Olivia,
If he asks you on a study date, chances are he really just wants to get to know you, but the fear of rejection is real so he takes advantage of the one thing you two have in common—class—to get more hangout time. If you were the one who suggested the study date without any other members of your class and he agreed, then he probably is savvy to this as well. Don’t worry, there are a plethora of ways in which you can express interest without making things awkward or too invasive.
Don’t worry, there are a plethora of ways in which you can express interest without making things awkward or too invasive.
The one thing I would not suggest is pretending to be dumb to get his attention. I don’t know what rule says that women have to play stupid to get a boy to like them, but that’s only for fuckboys. What you should do is use body language to your advantage—guys actually sort of notice that stuff surprisingly. Sit close to him, lean over him when you’re looking at notes together instead of pulling it up on your laptop, make eye contact with him when you talk, and don’t be afraid to poke fun at him or joke around. If the opportunity arises that you can talk about personal shit, do so! Ask him questions that aren’t too deep but make it known that you’re trying to get to know him. Make plans with him afterward or say something open-ended like, “we should do this again sometime” so he knows you want to see him more. If you are studying for a test, end the conversation with something like, “yeah after this test is over we should celebrate” which will open a huge door for him to make a move if you are too scared to formally do so. Or just ask him if he wants to get caffeinated up at the local bean shop. The worst that could happen is that he says no and you have to awkwardly see him at class for the rest of the semester. But trust us, there are worse things.
One last thing: if he mentions a girlfriend, your ass needs to up and leave right there though.
Don’t worry, you’ll do great
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