I have a huge crush on this guy on my floor and I even got his number and was trying to text him to get to know him. Unfortunately, he hasn’t been too responsive. Then I found out that he actually has a girlfriend that’s he’s been with for over two years. I’ve talked to friends about this and I’ve gotten mixed responses ranging from “homewreck” them and “just give up on going out with him but be his friend.” I’m trying to just be his friend, but he’s not that responsive when I try and get to know him over text—also, I don’t feel like ignoring my crush on him is working too well.
From, Enamored Edith
Dear Enamored Edith,
Don’t ruin someone else’s happiness. If he’s with a girl for with years and is not being responsive to you, then he is probably happy with her and is trying to remain loyal. While this must suck for you, if you try to get in the way of it, it will suck much worse the girl he’s been dating, and if he is a stand-up guy, you’ll only end up embarrassing yourself and looking like an asshole. Both results end in solitude—we know, life is hard. If you want to be friends with him then do it, but if you think you are going to try to get with him eventually, then you should really stay away and let your feelings subside. Getting with a crush is not worth putting someone through the pain of being cheated on. Ever. If he breaks up with his girlfriend, by all means, go for it. He’ll probably be more responsive anyway, but until that happens, stay the fuck away because you can’t control your emotions and you shouldn’t try to control his. It’s not worth it.
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